I recently spent six days of my life from 9am until 2am in sub-zero temperatures surrounded by 1,500 people. We danced, we yelled until we were hoarse, and we cried until we could cry no more. And we paid up to $12,000 for the privilege. Now, who on earth would want to do that you ask yourself?
Passionate, mindful and successful people from all walks of life gathered together at Tony Robbins’ Date with Destiny in Cairns, Australia. People who want to become better versions of themselves, who want to improve their relationship with themselves, and in return improve their relationships with everyone around them.
I had attended a Tony Robbins seminar in Sydney about five years ago and it was the best thing I could have done for myself and for the business at the time. I had been wanting to attend his next event for years but with raising my child and growing the business I just never had the time until now. I chose to attend for a variety of reasons, one was because I am always looking at ways to grow both personally and professionally and the other was because you always walk out of a Tony Robbins seminar with a new lease on life. Who doesn’t want that every now and again! Or even every day …
Tony says that “every decision in your life is controlled by your beliefs and values. You may not realize it, but you have the power to choose what you believe about your life, people, money and health. You can either choose beliefs that limit you, or beliefs that empower you to move toward success. Your beliefs energize you to create the world you want to live in right now. The key is to be aware of them because what you value determines what you focus on.”
One thing he asked us to focus on was what is our question? What do we ask ourselves on a daily basis that ultimately defines us? For some of us this was really easy to identify, for others it was hard. What do we say that stops us from being who, and what, we really want to be? Think about this. What is your question?
I am, by nature, a very positive and passionate person. I refuse to follow the norm and to listen to naysayers. I will and always have, done exactly what I want to do. I write my goals, I reach for them and I work hard to achieve them. Yes, I’ve had times where I’ve been knocked down and once it took years to get my ‘mojo’ back but I dug myself out of that hole and found the old Eva again. I’m glad I did. I like being happy, I like enjoying my life and I like living each and every day like it’s my last.
Another important question I ask myself on a regular basis is ‘Who do I surround myself with’? Do the people I mix with on a daily basis support and empower me, or do they criticize and belittle me? Some people think they are doing you a favour by ‘advising’ you but are they stopping you from being the best you can be?
So, what did I learn after six days of little sleep and lots of dancing? I think my biggest breakthrough was around my question, it was something I asked myself all the time and it was so ingrained in me that I didn’t even know it was there! I have now changed that question and I take the time to I focus on being more grateful for what I have, where I live and how wonderful my life truly is. It may seem simple but it takes a lot of work to truly believe it and to actually implement it on a daily basis and not just fall back into your own daily habits. I am a visual person, so a vision board keeps me on track but if you truly want to succeed, if you truly want to be the best version of you and if you truly want to be happy, motivated and grateful for this life then don’t listen to your head, follow your heart.
Enjoy this life, it’s short so be happy!